You Are Not Hard to Love—You Just Haven’t Met the Right Mirror Yet
For too long, you’ve convinced yourself that maybe you’re too much—too emotional, too independent, too scarred, too complicated to love. Maybe you’ve even sat in front of a mirror, dissecting every part of yourself, wondering why love never seems to fit you right, like a dress tailored for someone else.
But what if I told you that you were never the problem? That love itself was never the issue? That the real struggle wasn’t your worthiness—but the reflection staring back at you?
The Wrong Mirrors Will Always Show a Distorted Version of You
Love isn’t just about who we choose; it’s also about who reflects us back to ourselves. And when you’ve spent years in front of the wrong mirrors—ones cracked by their own insecurities, smudged by their inability to see you clearly—it’s easy to believe that your image is broken.
You’ve tried to love in places that never knew how to hold you. You’ve given your heart to people who could only love you in pieces because they had never loved themselves whole. And in doing so, you started to believe that you were the issue—that if only you were less, if only you could shrink, if only you could be more “manageable,” love would finally stay.
But here’s the truth: the right love will never ask you to be less of yourself.
You Deserve to See Yourself Clearly
You are not difficult to love. You are not unworthy. You are not too much.
You have simply been looking at yourself through the wrong lenses, measuring your worth by the way others have mishandled you. But love—real love—starts with the mirror you choose. And that mirror? It’s you.
Because before you find the love that stays, you have to be the one who refuses to abandon yourself. Before you meet the love that sees you, you have to open your own eyes. Before you feel the love that fills you, you have to stop pouring yourself into people who only leave you empty.
Love You Loudly, Unapologetically, and Without Permission
This is your wake-up call. To stop shrinking. To stop waiting. To stop believing the lie that love is something you have to earn, rather than something you inherently deserve.
So, love yourself loudly. Love yourself boldly. Love yourself in a way that shakes the ground you walk on and makes people who can’t handle it step aside.
Because you? You are not hard to love. You just needed the right mirror to see it.
And from this moment on, that mirror is you.
— Cola Nicole | Love You Loudly
