Dear Woman Who Gives Her All, Who’s Giving to You?”
You. The one who always shows up. The one who answers the late-night calls, the one who pours from a cup that’s been running on empty for far too long. The one who loves so deeply, so fiercely, that people have mistaken your heart for a home where they can come and go as they please.
But let me ask you something, and I want you to sit with it for a moment:
When was the last time someone poured into you the way you pour into everyone else?
Love Shouldn’t Cost You Yourself
Somewhere along the way, you were taught that love meant sacrifice. That to be a good woman, a strong woman, a woman worthy of love, you had to give everything. Your time. Your energy. Your heart. Your peace.
And you did. Over and over again.
You gave when you were tired. You gave when they didn’t deserve it. You gave because that’s who you are—someone who loves deeply, who cares endlessly, who believes that maybe, just maybe, if you love hard enough, people will finally see your worth.
But here’s the truth, the kind that might sting a little: The right people will never require you to set yourself on fire just to keep them warm.
Your Love Deserves to Be Reciprocated
You were never meant to carry the weight of love alone. Real love—healthy love—meets you halfway. It fills, not just drains. It lifts, not just leans. It gives, not just takes.
And I need you to hear this: If you always have to be the strong one, the understanding one, the one who bends, shifts, and breaks just to make love work… maybe it’s not love. Maybe it’s just a pattern you’re used to.
It’s Time to Choose Yourself—Loudly, Unapologetically, and Without Guilt
You’ve been strong for everyone else. Now, be strong for yourself.
Stop making excuses for people who only call when they need something. Stop being the one who bends until she breaks. Stop believing that love has to hurt to be real.
You are worthy of love that fills you up, not one that leaves you drained.
You are worthy of people who show up for you, not just when it’s convenient for them.
You are worthy of receiving the same love you so freely give.
So, from this moment forward, love yourself loudly. Set boundaries. Choose peace. Pour back into yourself with the same energy you’ve given away for years.
And when the right love finds you—the kind that nourishes your soul instead of depleting it—you’ll realize that you never had to beg for it.
You just had to choose you first.
— Cola Nicole | Love You Loudl
